Assignment: Nagging Dissatisfaction’s initiative
mother as a woman born in 1929, is not necessarily going to be satisfying for you as a
woman facing today’s challenges and opportunities.
Now that you have stalled Nagging Dissatisfaction’s initiative, I can’t help but wonder
forward in their own lives is likely to also help you rediscover your own passions and
dreams. I’m also wondering how this realization in turn is likely to help you move
forward in your life as well. However, doing so may stir up more of those disquieting
feelings like the troubling anger, fear, and longing you mentioned. As a mother, you
know that stirred emotions are to be expected with any transition. But I am concerned
that Nagging Dissatisfaction may try to use these feelings as a way of frightening you
into “going asleep” again, as it had in the past, so you won’t pay attention to what really
matters in your life.
On the other hand, the “hope” you mentioned, which brought tears to your eyes at the end
of our meeting, suggests to me that you are indeed staying awake and already beginning
to rewrite this story with more possibilities than Nagging Dissatisfaction could write for
you. Having heard the beginning of this new story that is so different than the one
Nagging Dissatisfaction had in mind, I have been wondering who in your life would not
be surprised that you’ve been able to break Nagging Dissatisfaction’s spell and instead
remember what really matters most to you. I mentioned how I thought catching on to
Nagging Dissatisfaction’s tricks may help you move forward; I have also been wondering
Something I wish I’d asked you during our meeting was how our conversation was going
for you. In particular, I wondered if the conversation was going in a useful direction, and
if there was anything I could have done that would have been more useful for you.
welcome any thoughts you have about this question, because my best guesses about what
may be helpful may or may not really fit for you. You understand your life story as only
a woman and a mother can; being a man, I only can understand your story as an outsider.
I would very much appreciate your guidance in how I can be most helpful to you as you
learn how to keep Nagging Dissatisfaction from interfering with this new story that you
are writing for yourself and for your children.
I’ll be interested in hearing your thoughts about these ideas I’ve offered, as well as any
ideas you have had about your changing story. I look forward to seeing you next week to
dialogue with you further.